Constructive Disagreements (and Arguing!)

It is very normal for couples to argue at some time. They say it would be nice for a relationship for sometime to make the relationship and give spice to it, and I definitely agree with that. there is nothing wrong with couples fighting as long as at the end of the day, they will be able to forgive each other and fixed the problem.

What if, at the end of the day, forgiveness seems to be a hollow word only that no one tries to fix things up. What if they the spice of relationship becomes a spice forever that no one and nothing can ever be offered to done to make the relationship lasts. Just what if?...

Well, then that is a totally different story. If it is something that cannot be forgiven although you both have tried to save the relationship, that would be your decision if you want to stay with the person or not. I am not saying that you should argue to spice up the relationship, it is just that it is okay to argue sometimes.

Yes it was just normal to argue cause we all differ in some beliefs and opinions no matter how you love each other. The point is, couples should learn how to respect that differences and talk about it to makes the relationship work. It was very important that you give each others chances to talk and explain his own side and then listen and try to look at the other side of the issue. Communication will serve a valuable role in keeping the relationship healthy.

My partner and i have very little difficulty talking to each other when we don't make a big deal of it. But there are times when we get into this prearranged talk territory when the blaming starts and it isn't a pretty thing to be part of. So we keep things fun and casual so as not to hurt each other's feelings.

I feel in all relationships there will be disagreements, we are not clones of each other (thank goodness) and part of relationships is to GROW. We only grow when we are challenged and yes, it is amazing how romantic relationships in particular make us grow. I think key is to keep it in the arena of constructive disagreement (very healthy) rather than drop it to the level of destructive argument where one person want to be RIGHT.

Being right means making someone else wrong, I cannot see how this can help anything or anyone.

Releasing the need to be right could be part of the answer, it definitely saw my relationship grow from 'childish' to relatively 'mature'. Always be TRUE to who you are though but as long as we respect ourselves, everyone else has to - or they are no longer welcome.