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I really want to say the right thing to you about this situation cause I feel like I can relate. But, maybe there is no one solution to this issue. In my own life, my spouse and I have gone through stretches of time just like the situation you described. However, there was usually something going on at the same time, like with him working lots of over time or being involved otherwise.

For many years, he was out of the house most of the day and night, working two jobs, so the only time we got to talk was on the phone. If your spouse doesn't seem to want to engage, maybe you can find a common activity that he will do with you, like watch a movie.

You said he likes to watch movies, so maybe that could be the common thread. During times when my own spouse worked lots, he was very tired and did not want to engage in lots of talking, so we would cuddle on the couch and watch a movie or pick a favorite shared TV show like 'The Apprentice' and watch that. And, we did that even after our daughter was born.  Just sitting near each other was enough for awhile to keep our bond strong.  Now, we have the exact opposite situation where he is home ALL the time due to disability and we are having to learn to give each other distance and not run in on the other person.  It's taking some time for adjustment.