jonnylons
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- Nov 4, 2004
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Ok, I know I am a guy and I probably shouldnt be here, but I figured who would know better than you ladies about my problem!
Basically, I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman that I love very much. But it has been hard to be apart - but we made it through a year of it. We did visit each other about once a month and we would talk about every night for several hours.
But things changed. This summer, she decided to go to Europe to study archaeology - something I wanted her to do and something I helped her achieve (I got her the opportunities to go). I thought she wasnt being fair as she wanted to do archaeology and didnt want to make any time for us to be together this summer. Initially, I was supposed to go with her, but I couldnt swing it financially.
So she went and we would talk over the phone every 5 days or so. It was tough.
To make things worse, I decided to move up to where she lives in order for us to be together - and this is something that she wanted too. But that move put a strain on us as I had to get everything in line - a job, a place to live, etc. I did it all just to be with her and she was not able to move.
But we would argue over the phone - she didnt want to call as much because I made her miserable every time we talked. And I was miserable because i had to do it all myself and she wouldnt make time for me to talk. It became cyclical.
So now, I have left Chicago - I was lonely and couldnt make it happen anymore. I was sad and trying to keep our relationship together just was not working. When I told her I decided to move back to FL, she got very sad and came over to my place. We spent the night together.
We agreed not to end our relationship, but to go forward with our lives and keep our relationship alive - much like we did when we were in a long distance relationship. But I havent heard from her in about 2 weeks.
I know I should just go forward with my life, and our relationship is wonderful when things are going well. But I love her and I dont want to move on and just leave her - she is someone very special to me. I dont know what to do. I cant call her - I have already left a message and I am trying to give her her space.
Can you ladies help me?
Basically, I have been in a long distance relationship with a woman that I love very much. But it has been hard to be apart - but we made it through a year of it. We did visit each other about once a month and we would talk about every night for several hours.
But things changed. This summer, she decided to go to Europe to study archaeology - something I wanted her to do and something I helped her achieve (I got her the opportunities to go). I thought she wasnt being fair as she wanted to do archaeology and didnt want to make any time for us to be together this summer. Initially, I was supposed to go with her, but I couldnt swing it financially.
So she went and we would talk over the phone every 5 days or so. It was tough.
To make things worse, I decided to move up to where she lives in order for us to be together - and this is something that she wanted too. But that move put a strain on us as I had to get everything in line - a job, a place to live, etc. I did it all just to be with her and she was not able to move.
But we would argue over the phone - she didnt want to call as much because I made her miserable every time we talked. And I was miserable because i had to do it all myself and she wouldnt make time for me to talk. It became cyclical.
So now, I have left Chicago - I was lonely and couldnt make it happen anymore. I was sad and trying to keep our relationship together just was not working. When I told her I decided to move back to FL, she got very sad and came over to my place. We spent the night together.
We agreed not to end our relationship, but to go forward with our lives and keep our relationship alive - much like we did when we were in a long distance relationship. But I havent heard from her in about 2 weeks.
I know I should just go forward with my life, and our relationship is wonderful when things are going well. But I love her and I dont want to move on and just leave her - she is someone very special to me. I dont know what to do. I cant call her - I have already left a message and I am trying to give her her space.
Can you ladies help me?
