Are you okay with your boyfriend watching porn?

[flowerchild]

I've always thought it was kind of messed up for men to "get their jollies" to strange women on the internet when they are in committed relationships. Whenever I bring this up, I get the "all guys do it" excuse, but is that really an excuse? Why is it okay to openly lust over a woman who isn't your girlfriend or wife?

 

[claudine]

To be honest, I don't have anything against porn. As far as I know, my boyfriend doesn't watch it, but I wouldn't be angry if he did. It really doesn't mean anything, it's not cheating. I know that he loves me very much and he would never hurt me.

 

[Ayane]

I want to say no. I've never been okay with it, but I let him do it.

I don't know though - there's plenty of women who aren't bothered by it and able to watch it with their boyfriends/Gfs.

Me though - I was so insecure when I found out my boyfriend did it. But then again many guys do it - so it's normal - (if its like once every long while.)

I told my boyfriend he can watch his porn as long as I don't see it and as long as he doesn't do that - while I'm asleep. (I used to wake up and he was watching the porn.) THAT WAS REALLY AWKWARD/ [The computer is in the bedroom]
He's been totally good about it ever since. And will at least admit when he watches the porn. (I mean it's kind of obvious when he locks himself in the shower for half hour and the noises)

I guess as long as he charges to one store, he can window shop.

 

[angelle]

Yes, I would be okay with it. Most of the time we watch it together. I wouldn't want to impede him from doing something that he wants. If he wants to watch porn when I'm not around or in my presence, then I'm okay with that notion. Just as long as he isn't physcially having sex with another woman. If that was the case, he would no longer have the title "boyfriend".

 

[Agnesia]

Man are different than us, women, so they need to "clean their pipe" more often, this is how their body works and I think watching porn is the fastest and safest way to do so. I do prefer this than using other services which involves human contact. Anyway I can't help him anytime he wants and I have nothing against it. This way everyone is happy!

 

[Trellum]

My boyfriend watches porn sometime, it doesn't really bother me. However, when we had just met he told me he almost never watched porn, but just recently I found out he lied to me and watched it way more often than he initially said. Needless to say I felt a bit betrayed for the mere fact he lied to me!

I hate lies and being lied to. I'm a girl with trusting issues because my previous ex lied to me during the entire relationship. He told me he wanted to marry me and made me waste almost 5 years of my life. He lied to me so many times, looked me in the eye and lied just like that. So now even the smallest lie makes me wonder things like: ''If he lied for such a small thing... what else could he be hiding from me?''.

I'm afraid to get hurt again

 

[kiwigirl]

To be honest, I'd rather my future boyfriend not be in to porn. Or at least that if he was that he wasn't addicted to it and realized that real life is not like porn. I also would leave a boyfriend if he was in to any form of violent porn.