Lilly81
New Member
This is a question that I have been asking people lately who have children. Some have said yes and they would not change anything. However, some have said that if they had known how much it was going to change their lives they would not have had any children.
I am on the fence on this subject and have been for a while now. I am 30 years old but at the moment feel no desperate need to have a baby. My life is a little upside down at the moment so this could have something to do with it. I know that there are pros and cons for both sides of having children and it all comes down to each individual. I just do not know if I am made for parenting or not.
I know that some people do not plan their pregnancies, they just happen and if that happened to me I would accept it and be happy. But to sit down with your partner and say "we are going to try for a baby" this is a huge thing to do. It does scare me a little as well having someone else that depends on you so much, maybe this is another reason I am on the fence.
Also, when you have children not only does your money rush out of the door faster than you make it, your time is not your own anymore as well. How do you go from having all your time for yourself, to having all your life be about children. I worked with a woman a few years ago who said this to me. She loved her life before she had her daughter and she said it was more work than she could have ever imagined.
Are you glad you had your children or if you are really honest was it too big a change from the way you liked your life before?
I am on the fence on this subject and have been for a while now. I am 30 years old but at the moment feel no desperate need to have a baby. My life is a little upside down at the moment so this could have something to do with it. I know that there are pros and cons for both sides of having children and it all comes down to each individual. I just do not know if I am made for parenting or not.
I know that some people do not plan their pregnancies, they just happen and if that happened to me I would accept it and be happy. But to sit down with your partner and say "we are going to try for a baby" this is a huge thing to do. It does scare me a little as well having someone else that depends on you so much, maybe this is another reason I am on the fence.
Also, when you have children not only does your money rush out of the door faster than you make it, your time is not your own anymore as well. How do you go from having all your time for yourself, to having all your life be about children. I worked with a woman a few years ago who said this to me. She loved her life before she had her daughter and she said it was more work than she could have ever imagined.
Are you glad you had your children or if you are really honest was it too big a change from the way you liked your life before?