Would you let your partner/husband chat with other women online?

With the advent of the Internet, meeting other people are so easy. So many dating sites, so many social networking websites and chatrooms online. How would you feel if your partner/boyfriend/husband chat with other women online? Would you feel jealous? Upset? Betrayed?

Unless I don't know about it, if I find out it will be hell. Why would he want to chat with other women online unless he is not happy with me. He will have to explain to me like a small baby why he is cheating on me because that is cheating regardless of how. So in short, am saying I can not let him chat.

It is absolutely NOT okay to chat with random women online. Oh no. There are boundaries that should not be crossed - I do not mind basic contact of course, like in the 'real' world but seriously nothing more than that will be tolerated.

I think that is only done when people feel a gaping hole in the relationship that they have at that point in time.

No, I would be very upset. Same as he would if the shoe was on the other foot.

Its not so much that I would be jealous, but I just think it is disrespectful. If he has the need for this "friendship" then obviously he is lacking something from me. I know for a fact he would be totally irate if he thought I had a male "friend" on the internet. I am already accused of it regularly. I am not even slightly interested in friending someone on the internet.

Completely unacceptable! Most dating sites are not even for dating anymore, more like porn over words. Would feel just like cheating for me and I don't think my partner would like it if I was chatting with other guys online as well.

I would hope that my man wouldn't feel the urge to talk to random women online. That's only acceptable behavior for a single guy. If he's feeling that need, I'd question his level of commitment to our relationship. Might be OK with some girls, but it's not cool with me.

This is something my husband has a problem with, he loves going on the internet and onto websites and talking with a bunch of dirty *****. And i wish i had known this before i married him and had his child. Other than his stupid internet fun he is a good guy though.

Some women online just don't care if a guy is married or has a family. They should stay away from married guys and not interfere with other peoples lifes, but hey what can ya do if your husband is just as guilty.

Have you discussed with your hubby how his online antics make you feel lynbetz?

As far as the women he's chatting with, are they aware he's a married man? One of the downsides of the internet is that it's very easy to "be" anything you want to be....

Yeah exactly katy, a few of the women knew and couldn't care less. If he ever takes it offline he is gone, he knows that i know he does it. He doesn't do it constantly he just does it every now and then when work or life gets tough on him. If i wasn't for my son i would leave him. But aslong as it's just online there really isn't any harm being done. He knows if he takes it any further i'm gone.

I wouldn't mind if they were just friends. I think it'd be really rude if he didn't tell me about it and did it behind my back. I'd also like to know what they're talking about.

Depends if he was chatting to flirt specially on those dating sites. Even he would let me know about it, I do not think it was proper and it was still form of cheating. Specially if I do not know about it, it will really make me so angry.
But if he was just chatting with his friends, nothing is wrong with that.

Chatting with friends is one thing. Striking up new "friendships" with girls on the Internet is another thing entirely! Affairs don't have to be physical - sometimes the most damaging sort are of the emotional variety. I'd definitely see that behavior as a red flag.....

lynbetz just out of curiousity, how would he react if the shoe was on the other foot? Would he be tolerant of you putting in so much time conversing with random dudes on the Internet?

There is no way that I would tolerate my husband going onto "dating" sites. We are married. If you are talking to other women who believe you are interested in them, in my opinion that is mental infidelity. Once he has started cheating in his mind, what's to stop him from letting things go further?

I have male friends, so I would be fine with my partner having female friends, too. It's how it's handled that would bother me. If it's in secret, there's a problem. If he's going on dating sites, there's a problem. And if it's more than just friendly chatting, then again, it obviously points to a problem.

He plays games online and sometimes there are women there that he's going to ultimately chat with. I'm okay with that, so long as there aren't any lines crossed anywhere.

I say it's alright if these women are his friends and if he doesn't keep it a secret from you. I trust my boyfriend and most of the women he speaks to online tend to be my friends as well. He is very open to me about his online activities as I am with him as well. It's not so much talking to other women that is the problem, it's how he is talking to them. Like if he is on dating sites, then that is a big no no. And if he's flirting with these other women he is speaking with, that is also a big no no as well.

I do not think it's ok for my partner to chat online with other women. Especially strange women he never met before because eventually they will want to meet up.

Unless it's one of his female friends he's known since childhood, no way. Thankfully my husband isn't the sort to do this, so I don't have to worry.. but he doesn't even have a Facebook account because he doesn't want the issues.. (I understand that, so many girls and guys will flirt on social networks whether you are taken or not).

Either you trust your husband/boy friend or you don't. I don't think there is an in between, where we can say, yes I trust him but only if he doesn't do this or that. And not sure why the behavior would be different online than it is off-line?

If a guy wants to cheat, he will do it. Telling anyone they can't chat online, is the same as telling him you can't go to work, as no matter what he does for a living, there will be contact with other women.

This post reminds me of all these "find out if your husband cheats" detective sites.. darn if you have to go to that extreme, I think it's much better and cheaper to just get a divorce.

Also trust is not something that's just there, trust is earned!