Lilly81
New Member
What do you when you find yourself in a relationship and you do not feel you are getting enough intimacy? This can be because of life, work, stress, anything that can take the attention and need away from your partner. And the longer the lack of intimacy goes on for the harder it is to snap out of it and get that spark back.
My relationship with my partner is great in all areas apart from intimacy sometimes. He has had problems and is a shy person anyway. He has had a lot of stress in his life and this has probably not helped at all, but this is fading slowly I hope now.
How do you start to get back on track together? I sit here sometimes feeling all sorry for myself, not getting that excitement and closeness I want, but I realize that most relationships have their issues and these are there to be dealt with and to move on from.
When you have been without intimacy for a while you can sometimes get into that "comfy" area with your partner. You stop trying to make romantic nights happen, you just sit there watching TV or using the computer. I never want to get into the "just friends" area with my partner, where that spark goes out of things altogether. There is no attraction issue where I am concerned with him, he says there that is not the case with him either, but he is very hard to get to open up most of the time.
I have put on a little bit of weight but he says nothing about that, he even brings me chocolate home some nights.
So what do you do when you want to get that part of your relationship back again? But the longer you leave it the harder it is to get back into it again. We are both the shy types and that does not help as there is no one to really lead in the bedroom.
I want to be with my partner for a long time and just hope that we can get this area of our relationship back again.
My relationship with my partner is great in all areas apart from intimacy sometimes. He has had problems and is a shy person anyway. He has had a lot of stress in his life and this has probably not helped at all, but this is fading slowly I hope now.
How do you start to get back on track together? I sit here sometimes feeling all sorry for myself, not getting that excitement and closeness I want, but I realize that most relationships have their issues and these are there to be dealt with and to move on from.
When you have been without intimacy for a while you can sometimes get into that "comfy" area with your partner. You stop trying to make romantic nights happen, you just sit there watching TV or using the computer. I never want to get into the "just friends" area with my partner, where that spark goes out of things altogether. There is no attraction issue where I am concerned with him, he says there that is not the case with him either, but he is very hard to get to open up most of the time.
I have put on a little bit of weight but he says nothing about that, he even brings me chocolate home some nights.
So what do you do when you want to get that part of your relationship back again? But the longer you leave it the harder it is to get back into it again. We are both the shy types and that does not help as there is no one to really lead in the bedroom.
I want to be with my partner for a long time and just hope that we can get this area of our relationship back again.