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Yeah, it takes a while to find a good counsellor, one that suits you. SNowy's right, trust is a big issue - it's the reason counsellors build up a rapport between them and their...patient or whatever you want to call it before they even think aobut tackling the issue.

Catrat - the counsellor is probably making the assumption that your friend doesn't have the strength of character or a stable state of mind to make the decision to not carry on with what she's doing. You know you're not advocating her behaviour but the counsellor doesn't. You know your friend isn't affected by you in that way but wouldn't you say it's preferable that the counsellor assumes that rather than assumes you aren't having a detrimental effect and leaves your friend in a situation that could be making the process more drawn out?

There is a reason for what the counsellor is doing. In some situations it is entirely appropriate, such as with my sister (and trust me, it was necessary to take her away from her friends) but if your friend doesn't like it then it will never work.

And therefore she should look for another counsellor.

*hugs you*

Just re-read the first line to Snowy's last post and it seems we disagree to some degree...