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So see? You know how well breathing helps relax those muscles and make it more comfortable. The speculum is obviously a bit bigger than your finger, but the idea is the same. And keep in mind that all your little parts down there are squishy and flexible....for lack of a better description. If your muscles are relaxed, the rest moves quite a bit on its own without anything blocking it, so your own muscle tensing is the only thing that would make it worse, ya know?

 

And again, just tell your doctor it's the first for you and they'll walk you through everything. Heck, they do anyway. And they'll chit chat and make small talk, too, so you 're not sitting there obsessing over what's going on. I had a doctor make me laugh a time or two during an exam even, as bizarre as that might sound, but they do this day in and day out, so they tend to know what they're doing to help keep people relaxed and feeling as least awkward as possible.