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To answer your question regarding whether or not it's tabu in the U.S. to have a child while not being married, that really depends on the person.  In certain religious circles here in the U.S. it is definitely tabu to have a child out of wedlock, in other circles however, it's quite common.  I myself have a son with someone I wasn't married to and I'm also no longer with.

I would strongly suggest waiting to have a child, especially if your boyfriend/fiance has already stated that he doesn't want a child right now.  Even if he tells you that you'll keep the baby if you do get pregnant, it's clearly not his first choice and you should respect that, especially since it makes things so much easier and less stressful if both parents are ready and willing to have a child.  And not to sound harsh, but since you've mentioned that you had an abortion last year with another guy, it seems that you've been with your current boyfriend for less than a year now and while you may think he's the man of your dreams, you should definitely take the time to get to know each other better, and by moving in together that's a great way to do that.

Also, you may think that once you graduate high school and get a job you'll be financially stable enough to have a child but babies are quite a bit more expensive than most people think, especially when you factor in daycare costs later on when you decide to return to your previous job.  Bottom line is, you're young and still have plenty of time left on the old biological clock so I would wait until you're fully established in a place of your own and you both decide together to have a child.