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I Dont Know What I Feel..

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Well..my problem its very simple , im together whit my boyfriend since i was 12 i'm 17 now..so we know each other very good,and we always had problems but we always solve them ..im almost finish my high school and i change a little , i dont know..im a little confused,and my boyfriend has this friend that likes me a long time ago..and he ask me not to teel my boyfriend because they are friends since ever, and its complicated, this guy is amazing and im starting to realise that i like to be whit him..and maybe i have feelings for him..but my boyfriend i dont know..i always like him ,and we are very close ,and i tell him everything..but now..i didnt tell him anything of this..and i cant stop thinking about the other guy ..this is happen about 5 moths ago and still today im confused ,so..does anyone else here have some advices? i think i need it..thank you ..and sorry if i wrote some mistakes cause im not english
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Unfortunately, you're the only person who can answer this one
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Is there something specific you like about this other boy? And if you broke up with your boyfriend... would this other boy want to be with you? Would it ruin the friendship between the 2 boys? There's a lot you need to consider, but it's your choice and only you can make it.
 
As Snowy said, the only one who can answer this problem is you.

Maybe try writing down a list about the prosand cons of leaving your boyfriend for this guy. Maybe include some of these:

Why do you like this guy?
Do you think that it is a pysical/sexual attraction or something deeper?
You say that you and your boyfriend have had problems, do you mean big problems (cheating) or little problems (he didn't take the bins out, etc)?
What can this guy offer you that your Bf can't?
What can you Bf offer you that the guy can't?
And so on.

Sometimes it helps to do these, because then you can lay out the pros and cons of breaking up with you boyfriend, to start a relationship with this other guy. But also take into consideration, Would you boyfriend take you back if everything goes pear-shaped?
 
You could always run away and live in the hills somewhere..

Sometimes once you have been with someone for a while, your brain stops realising the positive feelings you feel. Its kind of like having a smell in your house, and after a while your brain just doesn't realise that its there anymore. This often leads to seeing others in a more positive view then what they actually are. To be honest the best way to deal with this from my point of view is to give yourself some space. If you spend time away from both people, then you will have time to think about the problems you face... and know what you really want.
 
Well..i have to say thank you both of you for this advices, i just come here today, school is getting started=( but anyway..i speak whit my boyfriend and i tell him that i need space and think was the best to do,because things are very heavy right now, i speak whit him 3 days ago and since then we dont speak but he was very understandble but sad, i didnt tell him why i want space,i just tell him that im confused and i need time to put my life back togethersimple..but not easy , he thinks its because next year we go to college , because a lot people break up when they go to college, i think that stupid but anyway The other guy show up in my house and we go out and speak for a while , i didnt do anything ,he also didnt do anything but then the way he speaks, everyhting about him, hes just fascinating ,but i just told him that i need space from him too, i just get away and i go home ,now for sometime im gonna just put my head in school and books and friends .And when i feel ready eventualy i have to choose right?=(

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HI GIRLS..well,after everything that happen,i ask them both time for myself..6 days actually, maybe its short time but i think a lot in this days..and well the guy who likes me , im gonna be honest i go out whit him 2 days ago, even after i told him and my boyfriend that i need time ..but he called me and he was amazing whit me so we talk..a lot! and ..then well..he kiss me actually..i have no reaction..i dindt know what i feel,but after that..i feel empty..i mean i realize that i dont feel nothing for this guy..just a special friendship i guess..and yesterday i go to my boyfriend house i talk to him..i told him wht happen..and i make my choice..i love my boyfriend..and i still want to be whit him..he said that he was very happy ..and about the kiss, he only told me that maybe i need it to realize what i feel and he is not mad whit me , so..i think i have an really great great guy in front of me and im ok now finally..everything its ok..if u wonder the other guy well..he also understands my choice..he still likes me but we are just good friends

So..thank u all the girls who aswer me and my problem,its very important have people who listen and understand us**
 
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