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I think my boyfriend and I treat each other as equals. I don't really care what he does and he doesn't really care what I do (as long as neither of us is cheating or doing something like that) lol...neither one of us is "the jealous type". We moved in together back in Feb. and he is the "bread winner" but not because he's a man, but because he just makes more money that I do. He is about 13 years older than me so he has more work experience, plus a bachelors in accounting AND a bachelors in finance and he's working on a master's degree. Me on the other hand....I am currently working a really crappy job (not crappy cause of what I do, but crappy because my hours vary wildly)...one week I might get 40 hours, then the next I'm lucky if I get 20. It only pays $8 so between the low wage and the inconsistent hours, I can't really pay very many bills or anything. He encouraged me to go back to college (which I'm doing now and had planned on doing anyway). Not just for a degree and pay increase but because we're both the kind of people that want to have careers that we enjoy, not just a job that gets us by.

Although I do have to say, both of us are busy as hell but we have had several disagreements/arguments about housework. Its hard to keep the house clean when one person works full time and the other (me) works part time, sometimes full time, and has to study for 5 different college classes. I don't think the issue has anything to do with not being considered an equal...I think we both just tend to underestimate just how much stuff the other person does lol