LunarScorpio
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So, I have this friend that I’ve known for probably about ten or so years. A couple years ago, she got involved with this guy that was simply no good and I tried to warn her about him, but nothing ever worked to put it simply. She was the maid of honor at my wedding and even then I could tell that she was starting to pull away from me--she didn’t call, didn’t text, didn’t show up for hanging out, etc. It was so depressing and stressful because she was supposed to be my best friend and she was never around. My wedding was fantastic and she did show up, but even then it was horrible dealing with her. She wouldn’t sit at the bridal party table and instead continued to leave to go sit with her boyfriend (the only reason I invited him was because she begged and pleaded with me, making up some story about how she was sick and needed him to be there so he could take care of her).
After the wedding, I started hearing stories about her and her boyfriend fighting outside, something about drugs (he’s a known druggy, but had claimed he’d quite), and that he had walked off and she had run after him--she even ended up missing a special dance I had scheduled because of him. Either way, I went on my honeymoon and when I got back, I got a call from her mom telling me that she had OD’ed right before my wedding and this was the mysterious illness she had claimed to have. Their daughter had been taken away from them and they were close to being evicted. Me being me, wanted nothing more than to help her (not her boyfriend because I hated him and still do to this day), but she continued to push me away.
Fast-forward a few months, she got kicked out of the house, landing her and her daughter in a homeless shelter and her boyfriend was taken to jail. She was placed in a program that got her back on her feet and into a house--everything was going GREAT! Fast-forward a few more months, he got out of jail, she said she wasn’t going to get back with him and guess what…she did. What’s that mean for me? No more best friend. She won’t return text messages or calls, let alone initiate the conversation unless something’s going on (like when my dad went into the hospital). Her daughter’s birthday was this past December and I didn’t get an invite to the party (that she told me I’d be invited to).
Either way, I haven’t really talked to her since my dad went to the hospital and the last I heard was she was officially engaged to her boyfriend. I don’t plan on going to any sort of wedding she plans to have with him and needless to say, I think it’s the end of our friendship. I’m so torn over it and genuinely upset to the point that I find myself tearing up even now writing all this. I just needed to get it out, I think, but it’s so hard not to think about her and how screwed up the entire situation is. I should just forget her, but it’s hard. It doesn’t help matters that I really don’t have any other female friends. I don’t know what to do and I’m just sad. I just had to get it out there. Thanks for listening and sorry this was so long, like I said, I just had to get it out.
After the wedding, I started hearing stories about her and her boyfriend fighting outside, something about drugs (he’s a known druggy, but had claimed he’d quite), and that he had walked off and she had run after him--she even ended up missing a special dance I had scheduled because of him. Either way, I went on my honeymoon and when I got back, I got a call from her mom telling me that she had OD’ed right before my wedding and this was the mysterious illness she had claimed to have. Their daughter had been taken away from them and they were close to being evicted. Me being me, wanted nothing more than to help her (not her boyfriend because I hated him and still do to this day), but she continued to push me away.
Fast-forward a few months, she got kicked out of the house, landing her and her daughter in a homeless shelter and her boyfriend was taken to jail. She was placed in a program that got her back on her feet and into a house--everything was going GREAT! Fast-forward a few more months, he got out of jail, she said she wasn’t going to get back with him and guess what…she did. What’s that mean for me? No more best friend. She won’t return text messages or calls, let alone initiate the conversation unless something’s going on (like when my dad went into the hospital). Her daughter’s birthday was this past December and I didn’t get an invite to the party (that she told me I’d be invited to).
Either way, I haven’t really talked to her since my dad went to the hospital and the last I heard was she was officially engaged to her boyfriend. I don’t plan on going to any sort of wedding she plans to have with him and needless to say, I think it’s the end of our friendship. I’m so torn over it and genuinely upset to the point that I find myself tearing up even now writing all this. I just needed to get it out, I think, but it’s so hard not to think about her and how screwed up the entire situation is. I should just forget her, but it’s hard. It doesn’t help matters that I really don’t have any other female friends. I don’t know what to do and I’m just sad. I just had to get it out there. Thanks for listening and sorry this was so long, like I said, I just had to get it out.