Before reading the whole post I had my doubts, but once I was done reading it I was sure I could call myself a feminist. I really don't like that entitlement some guys have, as you said some guys do kill women because they rejected them or cheated on them. They are not property!
Actually I don't like the idea of marriage so much, because I don't like the idea of taking someone else's name and feel like I'm his property. Because some guys do make you feel that way, my SO actually jokes about it sometimes. I've told him that marrying to him doesn't mean i won't have a life of my own; I will.
Also I won't do things I don't want to do just because he wants me too, like for example spending time with his parents! They are awful people who attacked me some weeks ago and tried to convince my SO to leave me! So hell no, I'll spend as little time as possible with them. If they go to our house I'll try to act polite, but I'll not stay there like an idiot... I'll just do what I normally do when they are not there.
Women and men need to understand that once we get married we don't become someone's object or property, we are not there to please you; we are there to build a beautiful home and family. We are NOT your slaves and we DON'T have to believe what you believe... we don't have to do everything you tell us. We are entitled to our freedom, independence and individuality. We are NOT marrying you to have tyrant rule over our lives, but for you to compliment us and share our happiness with you, to work side by side as a team with a common goal: happiness and fulfillment.
