I learned a long time ago that in order for two people to really be able to coexist, there has to be a level of understanding. And it
doesn't hurt if you aren't completely financially dependent on your partner. Now that doesn't mean you can't be somewhat dependent,
but it doesn't hurt to have your own stash. If you're both adults, why should you have to ask permission to buy something? Particularly
if it's an item that isn't necessarily for you but the household or to make your role in the household a tad bit easier? If I want to buy
one of those cool little vacuum thingies for freezing meat and other foods and I'm told we can't afford and he turns around and buys a
damn smartphone, I'm liable to either take my OWN money and buy, or break his phone. But I'm a little too westernized. I was raised
by a single mom who worked while going to school and to be able to care for me. She instilled all the 'women are powerful, hear us roar'
mottos in me early, so this situation is not one in which I could operate appropiately, so please Umi...don't break his phone
But I
would approach him and attempt to talk to him and let him know that his actions were hurtful and undermined you're position
as his partner and were inconsiderate.