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Parents

Discussion in 'Teens Section' started by Potholer, Nov 8, 2004.

  1. Potholer

    Potholer Active Member

    I was just curious to see the kind of relationship you have with your parents.

    My mum is always telling me, if I ever want to talk to her about Something (eg, problems), I can, there's no reason to feel that I can't talk to them, because some kids feel they can't.

    But, really, I don't talk to them all that much about my problems. They aren't particularly good at the whole sympathy, pat-on-the-back-its-alright-it'll-turn-out-fine thing.

    "Two of my friends are giving up on their friendship and I want to try fix things, get them to talk"
    "Some things just can't be fixed, leave it be"
    Oh, that's really what I wanted to hear.

    I know it's cliche, but I honestly don't think they understand where I'm coming from on many things. Why I'd want to preserve my friendships or whatnot. I have no trouble telling them whether I'll be drinking or not though. They trust me and if I lose that, it'll be hard to get it back.

    *shrug*

    How bout you girls?
     
  2. Snowbaby

    Snowbaby Active Member

    I'm really lucky, I have, and always have had a great relationship with both my parents.

    They seemed to trust my judgement in things, I'm 25 (almost 26) And I've never been told to be home by a certain time, or that I wasn't allowed to go to a party, etc. Not quite sure how we managed that.

    I guess it goes by the two-way bond of trust. Potty, maybe ur mum is a believer in things working themselves out, I would agree to a certain extent. But really u should do what u feel is best.... within reason of course. Ur mum is just looking out for u :)

    In years to come u will see that! I know people probably tell u that all the time, but it's different when u are able to look back, u think to urself "THAT'S why they did that" ;)
     
  3. Potholer

    Potholer Active Member

    Hehe, were you coming home at all hours or were you pretty responsible?

    Yeah, I totally understand where they're coming from on most things and agree with them.

    I don't need to be told to come home before dark or, if I do, to make sure I'm in a large group. I know I shouldn't spend so much time on the computer and I can see the reason behind doing my bit around the house - might as well make things easier for Mum.

    They just never tell me what I want to hear. If I'm upset about something, instead of reassuring me about it, they tell me, I shouldn't worry about it because I'm getting too involved and it's not my problem to worry about (when it is in fact my problem they just don't see it that way).

    I do talk to them and they encourage me to talk ("how was your day?"). I can go to them for many things but when I need a problem solved, they can't help me. When I need hugs and kisses, I can go to them (just to prove I love my parents :p) but talking about friends to them doesn't seem to work.

    But oh my gosh, is that the time? I have to go back to studying!
     
  4. Kaos_Chick232

    Kaos_Chick232 New Member

    I don't talk to my parenys AT ALL. They always find some way to embarrass the hell outta me... :cry:
    But even i admit that there were good times too!
     
  5. kreestar

    kreestar New Member

    I don't tell them everything. But, I'm a really good kid, so there isn't anything to tell them.
     
  6. samwella

    samwella New Member

    same here. My parent hardly ever yell at me. Only when I get caught doing something bad. (swearing, flirting?, fighting, etc) Its really annoying. But they trust me atleast. And let me go out after dark and crap with my cousins.
     
  7. Tiddlyjen

    Tiddlyjen New Member

    I tell them pretty much everything....but I WILL NOT DIVULGE THE BOYFRIEND INFO! Well, not 100% true....I do tell MUM but no way in HELL would i tell Dad....he'd go "a hunting with the shotgun"...sorry bubs :wub: :grin: :lol:
     
  8. busted

    busted New Member

    yeah i talk to my dad more than my mum, as we always argue
    :angry: and she is really over protective
     
  9. Tiddlyjen

    Tiddlyjen New Member

    :yeahthat: lol i get that too
     
  10. Jedi_chick

    Jedi_chick New Member

    me to, my mum is chained to my foot. *sighs*

    My mum isn't the reasurring type, she is sorta....dunno how to explain it. Just not open to it.

    But she is a good mum, and cares for me well.
     
  11. hotchick999

    hotchick999 New Member

    i have never told them that i stoped eating when i ment to be going out with friends, and i cut my self and i also took over dose and hung my self
     
  12. Caitlyn

    Caitlyn New Member

    *conversation stopper*

    Are you ok now? ::concern::
     
  13. Potholer

    Potholer Active Member

    Oh hotchick... ::concern too::

    This has all passed or are you still going through a hard time?

    :console: We're here if you need to talk, hun :)
     
  14. Tiddlyjen

    Tiddlyjen New Member

    :eek: holy cow dude, are you okay? seriously this is what places like this are for, to talk and get worries of your chest
    :console:
     
  15. arwenpotter

    arwenpotter New Member

    i dont really like ot tlak to my mum aboot anything... we're fire and water most of the time since we're both aquarius' and i dunno everytime i tell her something its liek you Jen NOT wot i want to hear or i jsut get more rules placed on me or all these lectures... i cant stand it.. i want support not the third degree!

    Goddess hotchick are you alright? yer we're here for ya girl ;) :yes:
     

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